Dominator culture teaches all of us that the core of our identity is defined by the will to dominate and control others. We are taught that this will to dominate is more biologically hardwired in males than in females. In actuality, dominator culture teaches us that we are all natural-born killers but that males are more able to realize the predator role. In the dominator model the pursuit of external power, the ability to manipulate and control others, is what matters most. When culture is based on a dominator model, not only will it be violent but it will frame all relationships as power struggles. Bell Hooks
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In the dominator culture all of us are taught to be a killer. This is a natural instinct because we are taught that we are all born killers. In this culture, the pursuit of power is everything. If you think anything else, then you will never be happy or successful. Therefore, it is very important that you learn how to manipulate people and control them as well as others in order to get your way.

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